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Hopelessness and distress.

shared by: Durghan · · 💙 18 · 💬 21 · Join the discussion

I promise this isn't currently a cry for help, nor am I actually contemplating this at this time. I am not a danger to myself.

But, does anyone else have days where they just feel like they should just give up, gorge themselves on sugary snacks and all your favourite bad-for-you foods and say to he

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Ladder-Necessary · · 💙 6 Reply to comment

The increased price of groceries sucks and makes it even more frustrating that we can't fill up on the cheap stuff.

Do you have any specific swaps you are looking for? I find it easier to think of swaps, like I switched from oatmeal to Greek yogurt for breakfast. Or instead of a burger and fries, now I do the burger without the bun, cheese on top, caramelized onions, and roasted broccoli. I ate SO much cheese at first whenever I wanted tortilla chips. I love cheese, and now I don't crave tortilla chips, but I did at first and that was a useful bridging food.

Those are swaps I've made. They're specific to my body and my taste buds. What specific foods are you looking to swap out? What are low carb foods you do like?

Durghan · · 💙 2 Reply to comment

Mostly the only thing I have gravitated towards is fried beef cubes. But I ate those quite religiously before becoming diabetic. My biggest issues that I absolutely LOVE pastas, breads, potatoes and rice dishes. And none of those are the same without those ingredients. And like, to me spaghetti is a meal, not a side dish. Roasted potatoes are an S tier food. Lasagna is a gift from the gods. Butter chicken on a pile of saffron rice is pure magic! I've tried the cauliflower rice and it's just not right. Fake noodle made out squash is all wrong and the low carb variants of the pastas are so marginally better that it's often just best to go with the better noodles. I've tried the greek yoghurt and without the added fruit stuffs it's just so, boring and unpleasant.

phatdoughnut83 · · 💙 9 Reply to comment

Hey! You need to chill out a bit. You need to figure out what your numbers are and where you want to be.

I try and indulge a bit sometimes as long as I spike within my range it’s fine. You need to talk to your team. Meds do a wonderful job at making you feel normal and being able to reintroduce some regular foods in. But it all depends on how you want to go about getting in range.

Someday days when we go to watch a baseball game I know I’m going to have a good day because all the walking equalizes the delicious stuff I’m about to eat.

I always say to heck with consequences. As long as I’m not maintaining a high A1C. Last time I went in I was at 5. But I am also on meds.

It’s all a numbers game and when you figure out the law of averages you can really hack into the system.

Let th

Durghan · · 💙 1 Reply to comment

I'm on 5mg Mounjaro and 500mg of metformin. Yesterday I ate about a kilogram of chicken lasagna and I only peaked at about 8.2 (sorry for not using freedom units!) I just worry that Mounjaro is making my pancreas do things it doesn't really want to. :-( My last A1C was 5.5.

phatdoughnut83 · · 💙 2 Reply to comment

Your first post was making it sound like your A1C was really high. Not sure what all the hopelessness and distresss is about if you are eating like that and your A1C is 5.5 unless your doctors are unhappy with the way you are eating.

Majestic_Economy_881 · · 💙 3 Reply to comment

What do you mean you "became diabetic over the course of three weeks"? As if your pancreas just kind of stopped working in that time? Because that honestly sounds more like super rapid onset Type 1...but that wouldn't be consistent with 5 mg Mounjaro and 500 mg metformin keeping your A1C in the 5s.

Have you been tested for diabetes autoantibodies and C-peptide?

phatdoughnut83 · · 💙 2 Reply to comment

That’s what I’m wondering also.

Durghan · · 💙 1 Reply to comment

My problem is I became diabetic over the course of three weeks. I'm acutely aware of the likelyhood that if I keep eating this way I could go from being fine to seriously bad or even dead in just a few days or hours. I was also gifted peripheral neuropathy in my feet from day 1.

I'm terrified of the future and sometimes feel that just getting things over with quickly would save me from a lot of pain and depression. Fortunately I could never intentionally do that. I want to live forever as long as I'm not suffering. That's not likely to happen though.

phatdoughnut83 · · 💙 3 Reply to comment

You were only diagnosed three weeks ago?

Durghan · · 💙 1 Reply to comment

No, it was almost exactly two years ago. I went from being non-diabetic to type 2 with in 3 weeks. Was probably even less time between first seeing a symptom and deciding there was a problem I need to see my doctor about. So, it was very fast. It could easily have been just a couple days of going from normal to type 2. My doctor and a couple other specialists agree that it was likely triggered by some medication I had been on.

nevergiveup234 · · 💙 3 Reply to comment

Diabetic 20 years. I have a soultion to eating issues

Eat smaller portions of foods you eat now. Full stop. Reduce intake of carbs and high glycemic foods. Take meds

Do not change your diet. People do not keep them and gp back to the way they ate before..

I just went through a diet change to control bs and kidney issues. I know what i am doing. It took 9 months of effort. Everything changes.

chigurh316 · · 💙 2 Reply to comment

A lot of this is diabetes information overload.The stress caused by obsessing over this thing can drive you nuts. I've been there the last few months. If you had been diagnosed 30 years ago, you'd get your plan and be told to follow it and thats it, no forums to read with thousands of posts, dozens of different options, etc. Get a plan and disconnect from the internet for a few weeks.

Majestic_Economy_881 · · 💙 2 Reply to comment

There's also the fact that many docs (at least in the US, dunno about elsewhere), will just say something like, "yep, you're diabetic, here's some metformin and try to cut down on carbs" and then leave you with nowhere near the amount of information you'll need to dispel the distress and get a handle on things.

RightWingVeganUS · · 💙 2 Reply to comment

But, does anyone else have days where they just feel like they should just give up, gorge themselves on sugary snacks and all your favourite bad-for-you foods and say to heck with the consequences?

No.

I don’t let myself romanticize giving up. My grandparents were children of freed slaves. They grew up and raised families during the Depression and under Jim Crow. My parents lived through segregation and the chaos of the civil rights era. They didn’t opt out when life felt unfair.

I live in a time where I can buy food that supports my health and access medical care they were denied. They couldn’t drink from the wrong water fountain! That perspective keeps me grounded. For me, neglecting my health would feel like disrespecting what they endured so I could have choices.

That doesn’t m

grrrlgone · · 💙 2 Reply to comment

I’m sorry. I use Mounjaro and it helps with food noise.

Durghan · · 💙 0 Reply to comment

I'm currently on the 5mg of Mounjaro. I started at 2.5 and it was amazing for about a month! Then I leveled out and was stuck for a month so we boosted me up to 5 and nothing has really changed so I'll likely go to 7.5 in the new year.

sneakysnake1111 · · 💙 2 Reply to comment

I'm new, but I had my first .... breakdown? the other day..

I learned that I could make fucking lentil bean wraps with 2 ingredients. Just beans and water.

I was so excited.

They tasted SO FUCKING GOOD. I hate beans, so that's a huge win for me.

And then I learned about net carbs and they're almost half of what I'm allowed, per wrap, per fucking day.

I lost it a little. I was so happy I could find and make something so obviously healthy, I didn't even consider the other important stats and it just made me feel fed up.

Durghan · · 💙 2 Reply to comment

The only thing I've found close to that is just fried beef cubes with some spices. I have a particular disdain for tiny things like lentils and quinoa and stuff like that. For some reason only rice doesn't enrage me like that! hahaha. Otherwise baked beans are the smallest pile of things I can deal with. I think it's a matter of what they call mouthfeel. The "chew" is just wrong with anything too small and only rice has the right feel. It's very frustrating.

phonkubot · · 💙 1 Reply to comment

i hear you. all i can suggest is to take each new day as it comes. i totally empathise

fireyseastar · · 💙 1 Reply to comment

I have given up before and it's absolutely not worth it. I was so sick, I could barley stand and had to pee constantly

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